Potty training the extremely unwilling & downright oppositional...

Have you ever tried to potty train a child who just doesn't want anything to do with it?  Like they are so afraid to grow up and use the toilet that they actually are repulsed by even the mere mention of the word "bathroom" and run the other way?  Ok, I would understand if he had a good reason, but he is perfectly normal three year old.  Perfectly. Normal. Except he refuses to use the toilet.  Why, you may ask?  To taunt me, I believe.  His two year old buddy is fully potty trained and I am starting to wonder if, like his mom and I have said (until now) in fun, whether or not he will be trained along side his 18 month old brother.  

I am a person who likes to see results from effort put forth.  So when I take this kid every hour on the hour to go potty and 10 minutes after we come out of the bathroom he has this blank look on his face like he might be pushing a boulder into his pull-up, and I ask him, "Do you need to go to the bathroom?," and he doesn't even respond cuz it's literally too hard to break the concentration obviously needed to birth this poop, its a little aggravating.  So the look finally disappears, and I ask him if he pooped in his pull-up, and he answers, "Yes, just like I do every day," I think I may cry.  

So I cut down on the trips to the bathroom and just have him go when the potty trained kids do (in the morning when they come, before naptime, after naptime, and before we go outside - it is quite aggravating when you finally get all 6 kids age 3 and under outside and only 2 of them can walk reliably well and then having to take them all back inside because one of them needs to use the bathroom - lesson learned more than once I must admit).  Which, back to my original topic, is still not working.  I bought this kid his favorite characters on big boy underwear, and they are sitting, still sealed, on my cabinet that holds all the daycare stuff.  I have tried rewards such as M&M's, reading a special book to him only when he sits on the toilet, and even bribing him with a toy when he is finally wearing big boy underwear all the time.  Still - no interest.

I hate it when I think I know what I am doing and I get knocked down off my little pedestal of know-it-all-ness.  I have been a mom for way too long to not know what I am doing and I firmly believe that I know everything.  So imagine how much it sucks to learn that you don't know all of everything.

I guess I deserve it.